It’s May, the month for celebrating moms, and I am thrilled to have a coffee loving mom with me for this special coffee chat! Rachel Cabalse and I met through social media when we teamed up for a fun coffee-themed book giveaway. Since then, Rachel and I have been cheering each other on from across the country as we spread the word about our debut books. Grab your favorite mug; fill it with something delicious, and join Rachel and me as we talk about coffee, motherhood, and enjoying the writing journey.
Me: Describe your relationship with coffee. What is your go-to beverage? What about if you are relaxing? (haha!)
Rachel: My relationship with coffee is an ongoing love affair. We have grown together over the years – from being a child who just enjoyed the aroma as her parents brewed a pot every morning, to a young adult who used it solely for the caffeine element, to a budding entrepreneur who opened a kid-friendly coffee shop (Java Mama) back in 2013, and now full- circle as the parent whose children learned to pull a perfect double shot of espresso during the distance learning days of 2020 lockdown. My go-to coffee is usually black, unsweetened cold brew – or if I’m feeling frisky a cafe au lait. I don’t comprehend the last question. 😉
Me: When do you feel like a good mom?
Rachel: Very rarely. I am always worrying if I’m not enough, or at other times too much. But maybe if I have to pinpoint those moments, it’s probably when I hear my kids giggle. Or, when I see them help each other out. Those moments where I am fully present, away from my phone or work, and could just focus on them are probably when I feel good enough.
Me: What has been most surprising to you about motherhood?
Rachel: How much I learn from them. My kids have taught me to be patient and compassionate. Above all, they have made me a better listener which doesn’t come naturally to me. They see the world so pure; and, as they discover and ask questions, I gain new insight to things I would have never even wondered about before.
Me: Ask your kids to describe you. What did they say?
Rachel: 9- yr- old – “Kind, hard-worker, a never give up kind of person…yah like that.”
5 -yr -old – “She is so much fun and likes to play with me. I love her because she’s the best mom ever.”
Awww…thank you for making me do that exercise. I’m feeling a little teary-eyed now – let’s go back to question 2. My new answer is right now.
Me: When did you first feel like a writer? When did you first refer to yourself publicly as a writer?
Rachel: I didn’t actually refer to myself publicly as a writer until my book was published and available for purchase. That was November 3rd, 2020. Honestly, I’m not certain I even feel like a writer now!
Me: What was the first thing you ever wrote/published? How did you feel?
Rachel: The first thing I ever wrote was probably my Senior Honors Thesis on a study I did back in 2004. It was titled, “IM Online: Instant Messaging Use Among College Students.” Looking back now, especially knowing how much computer-mediated communication and social media has taken over our livelihood, it feels exciting to know I wrote about it nearly 20 years ago. My mentor actually utilized my findings and got published in the Communication Research Reports shortly after I graduated. It makes me feel accomplished, but not quite finished.
Me: How did your current project move from idea to actual, tangible book?
Rachel: Lockdown 2020. With all of the extra time on my hands, and with the kids getting older, I wanted to complete the book while they could still relate and appreciate the story. I had been sitting on the manuscript for nearly 4 years (after Java Mama closed) – so if there was a time for this to become tangible, it was now.
Me: Who is your book for?
Rachel: My family and all the Java Mamas.
Me: What do you want to work on next?
Rachel: My book, This Mommy Needs Some Coffee, was such a heart story for my love of coffee and my kids (who I love a little more as Melissa Face puts it!) that it’s hard to even think about another project. If anything, it’d have to be something as enjoyable for the parents AND kiddos like this one was. Until then, I’m just going to enjoy this next stage of life with my “babies!”
Connect with Rachel:
You can find me on Instagram @thismommyneedsomecoffee; Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thismommyneedssomecoffee/ or online at linktr.ee/MommyNeedsCoffeeBook
Order your copy of I Love You More Than Coffee for Mother’s Day.